Periodically, I offer full day or mini-seminars entitled “What Lawyers & Judges Don’t Want You to Know (Navigating through the Divorce and Family Courts)” and/or “The Nuts, Bolts, and Monkey Wrenches of Divorce.”

Designed for people who are contemplating or in the early stages of a divorce or legal separation, these seminars will inform and educate you not only about “the law” but also about how to avoid many of the pitfalls of the divorce and family law “process.”

The serious need for these seminars, and my desire to engage people in “preventive law” (avoiding problems) came about as a result of many years of volunteer work and ongoing involvement with a not-for-profit organization dedicated to promoting fairness, accountability, transparency, and affordability in the divorce and family law system, as well as helping people going through that system. To learn what attendees and sponsors of these seminars have said, read the seminar testimonials.

Some of the topics included in these seminars:

  • Planning—establishing the facts on the ground
  • Alternative ways of resolving marital issues
  • The basics of separation and divorce, including grounds, parenting issues, property issues, child and spousal support issues, and the process
  • How to find the right lawyer
  • Understanding and negotiating a retainer agreement with a matrimonial attorney—attendees are provided with a lengthy sample retainer agreement containing most of the provisions a person is likely to encounter, along with written commentary about these provisions
  • “Attorneys only conferences”—what they are and why you should insist on being present in court
  • “Stipulations of settlement put on the record”—what they are and why you should avoid them

Disclaimer: The information you obtain at this site is not, nor is it intended to be, legal advice. You should consult an attorney for advice regarding your individual situation. I invite you to contact me and welcome your calls, letters, and electronic mail. Contacting me does not create an attorney/client relationship. Please do not send any confidential information to me until such time as an attorney/client relationship has been established. Email addresses are provided for your convenience and do not establish an attorney/client relationship. Sending information to John H. Rubin Law via e-mail or other means does not establish an attorney/client relationship.

Upcoming Full Day Seminar

“What Lawyers & Judges Don’t Want You to Know (Navigating the Divorce and Family Courts in New York and The Nuts, Bolts and Monkey Wrenches of Divorce)”

Saturday, July 7, 2018 - 9:30 am to 3:30 pm
Coalition for Family Justice (“CFJ”)
821 North Broadway, Irvington, NY 10533

Attendees will receive a seminar book.

Cost: $75.00. To register and for more information, please call CFJ at (914) 591-5753.

Upcoming Mini Seminar(s)

“What Lawyers & Judges Don’t Want You to Know (Navigating the Divorce and Family Courts in New York)”

March 13, 2018 - 6:30 to 8:00 pm
Westchester Table Tennis Center
175 Tompkins Avenue, Pleasantville, NY 10570

Attendees will receive valuable and informative written materials.

Cost: $10 if pre-registered, $15 at the door. Please make checks payable to “Westchester Table Tennis” and mail to their address noting “for seminar,” PayPal to, or cash/check/credit card at the door.

April 19, 2018 - 6:30 to 8:00 pm
Briarcliff Manor Public Library
1 Library Road, Briarcliff Manor, NY 10510

Attendees will receive valuable and informative written materials.

Free to the Public. Registration is recommended, but all are welcome to attend. To register, please email Shelley Glick at or call the library at (914) 941-7072.

Most Recent Seminar(s)

2017 all day seminar at the Coalition for Family Justice (“CFJ”), Irvington, NY

Recent Seminar Testimonials

“More seminars! Thank you it was very informative and helpful! I regret not coming before I started my divorce.”

“Very relevant and helpful material, delivered in a systematic and friendly way.”

“This was a superb seminar. Would highly recommend.”

“Thank you. Very helpful!”

“Excellent information in easy to understand language.”